As I reflect on the events of the week, I can't help but feel a bit in awe of what transpired. My child, graduating high school! Why would this be such an event, some might wonder? Because my child has Asperger's. She graduated from mainstream classes, not special classes, a feat in itself.
I reflected on 13 years ago, when she was diagnosed at the age of 4. Had we listened to what the "experts" told us would be her life, we would never have been on this journey with her. Even at the age of 4, I was often told she was "too old" for early intervention classes. Nor would she ever have entered the mainstream school system, and would have forever been doing things that she has proven "too smart" for. She has always wanted to take the easy road, but I wanted her to challenge herself. Certainly the journey has not always been a bed of roses; in fact, there were lots of frustrating days. Things that would seem like were progressing well would suddenly turn and we would have to start over again.
Upon reflection, I'm glad I did things the way I did. My daughter has inspired so many others, and made me extremely proud. Not only is she graduating high school (and no, she wasn't "handed" a diploma, she earned it herself), but she is completing her work experience hours, and will be a published author, having written some poetry about the turtles at the school. Had we listened to those "experts" who told us "she'll never have an imagination", she may have never had the chance to have one of her poems published.
Now, I find that PETA is sending the wrong message about dairy products being the cause of autism. The message they are reflecting is that autism sucks, and that the dairy industry is to blame. True that some people with autism cannot tolerate certain foods, but it doesn't mean that it is the cause of their autism. This sends the same message as the vaccine debate. It is wrong and just causes more confusion than ever about what causes autism.
My advice to those going through what we did - never give up. See your child's potential and work with it. There is nothing that they can't do - I know some who are comedians, artists, authors, etc. One need only look at Temple Grandin's accomplishments to know that the potential is there. So, get out there and find that niche - your child will surprise you!
